Mediation

Unfortunately there are numerous families suffering from the effects of being locked down during this Covid-19 pandemic.

Words are very important to the way we communicate. We know the dictionary definition and how to use a word in the correct context (most of the time!).

Have you ever felt stuck in an unhealthy or negative cycle in relationships where things don’t seem to be changing? It is likely that you may be stuck in the Karpman’s drama triangle; a place nobody wants to be but an easy place to become trapped.

When any relationship ends, we all hope to remain friendly and amicable but due to the emotions surrounding the issue of rejection this is often hard for one party, if not both.

If bad feeling and resentment creeps into a relationship break down, the costs both emotional and financial can be considerable, if not managed appropriately.

Very often I consult with clients who are in a relationship which is unhappy at best, and at worst is abusive emotionally and physically.

"They are not the same person!" and "I don’t know where the person I married has gone!" I have heard statements along these lines through the whole of my career in family law. I have also during my time as a family lawyer come to understand that despite those statements, people do not tend to change during the stress of separation, their behaviour and attitudes can, and often do, become heightened.

Whenever we discuss a subject we make three non-conscious decisions: what we want to focus on; what it means to us; and what we should do to create the result we desire.

Negotiation is in reality no more than a discussion of ideas, principles, opinions, beliefs and expected outcomes, used to persuade the other person to agree with us.